Create Your Life
Page With Your Community & Friends!The key to a happy, successful and exciting life is to create it yourself. If you’re just waiting for it to happen, you’ll likely have a very, very long wait.
When you take some time to yourself and actually decide on what you want from your life, you have of course taken the first step towards creating the life that you want. Many people are yet to get this far.
If you’re yet to make decisions about your life and set goals, the chances are that others are creating your life for you, or at least shaping it. Peers, parents, spouses, politicians and advertisers are all looking to influence how you behave and live your life.
Once you’ve decided on what you want from life, to help ensure that you get there, Dr. Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire has identified effective ways of achieving long-lasting change in your life.
He did this by comparing the techniques used by successful and unsuccessful participants in a study of over 700 people.
The following were found to help you to meet your goal(s):
1) Break your goal into a series of steps, focusing on creating sub-goals that are concrete, measurable, and time-based. For example, instead of thinking ‘I want to find a new management job” focus on creating smaller, measurable goals such as making contact with twenty recruiters per week.
2) Tell your friends, family and colleagues about your resolution, and ask them to provide you with helpful nudges to assist you in achieving your goal.
3) Regularly remind yourself of the benefits associated with achieving your goals by creating a checklist of how life would be better once you obtain your aim. For example, if you want to make a career move now, make a list of the benefits getting a new position and place it somewhere prominent in your home.
4) Expect to revert to your old habits from time to time. Treat any failure as a temporary set-back rather than a reason to give up altogether. Remember that everyone messes up from time to time. Don’t blame yourself if you falter, or allow the experience to make you give up.
5) Make only one resolution as your chances of success are greater when you channel energy into changing just one aspect of your behaviour.
We would add to the list three points. The first is that while some people will want to see you take control of your life, others may not be so keen. So you do need to be selective as to who you share your goals with.
Secondly, you can reach your goals quicker by finding someone who has already achieved what you are looking to do. By learning from their successes and mistakes, you can get to your goal faster. If you are lacking mentors, reading biographies can be a powerful way to learn from people who have achieved great things.
Thirdly, once you have decided on what you want, make sure that you take action as soon as possible.
Getting started is often the toughest part of accomplishing anything. The hardest part of exercising is actually getting to the gym - when you’re there it’s easy for you to exercise.
Once you start something you create momentum. It is this that helps to drive you forward to complete your goal.
So once you have a goal in mind, do something towards it. Even if it is something small that you do, you’ve started and you’ve got momentum.